It’s Time To Feel
Good Enough
WORKSHOP 1.
PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT
SUNDAY 23 OCTOBER
10.30-12.30 BST
WHAT IF TRYING TO BE 'BETTER' IS ACTUALLY MAKING THINGS WORSE?
Every mother I know is on a self improvement mission.
We know that we should make time for self care. We don't, and end up frazzled.
We know that we should more present. But we get distracted and feel overwhelmed.
We know that we should correct the behaviour and not shame the child. But we end up shouting anyway.
We find ourselves in a vicious cycle of trying to make a fresh start and then feeling even worse when we make the same mistakes the next day.
And whether we realise it or not, we spend a lot of time trying to live up to what we think a good mother should be (hint: ever present and loving).
BECAUSE BEING THE 'PERFECT MUM' IS DAMAGING FOR US AND OUR CHILDREN
The irony is that trying to live up to this image in our heads of what a better mother would be or do actually stops us from being present, loving and connected with our children.
The pressure to be perfect:
- Teaches our children to strive to be perfect (as they watch us trying to live up to impossible standards)
- Leads to stress and burnout (as it's simply unsustainable to get everything right all the time)
- Gets in the way of good parenting (as you end up feeling tired, snappy, and resentful)
- Is often anxiety in disguise (as you try to control everything to feel better about yourself)
BUT WHAT IF I TOLD YOU THERE IS ANOTHER WAY?
Once you start to reframe the unrealistic standards you have been trying to live up to, everything becomes much easier. And you find that you have more capacity to be the loving, present and connected parent you want to be.
This workshop will enable you to:
1. Become a role model of 'good enough' for your children
Build a legacy of self compassion rather than running yourself into the ground (and teaching your kids this in the process).
2. Get off the treadmill of if/then thinking
Begin to value who you are right now, rather than thinking 'if I was a better parent then my kids would be so much happier...'
3. Reduce anxiety
Stop trying to control outcomes and what others think of you.
4. Stop the corrosive power of mum guilt
Start living from a place of feeling good about what you do for your children, rather than bad about what you are not doing.
5. Prioritise what really matters for you and your family
Learn to trust your true instinct about what is important, not what others tell you is important.
I'M ALI.
I am mum to Clem, who, since she arrived 10 years ago, has been the single biggest force for change in my life.
I am a psychotherapist and mindfulness coach. I help other mums navigate their own way through the unforgiving territory of modern motherhood that often leaves them feeling unseen and inadequate.
Join me on a journey of self-compassion, where we can begin to see that we are truly 'good enough' mothers.
"Ali has a way of making you feel so understood! I came away feeling like a weight had been lifted."
Amy
"The workshop was so helpful. It made me realise I'm not alone in feeling this way and it helped me to understand the changes I've gone through since having my baby."
Mel
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Here are just some of the things people typically want to know. Please contact me directly if there's anything else you are unsure about.
Will the workshops be recorded?
What is the benefit of attending live?
I need to be with my baby/child, can I just listen in?
I can't attend the whole session. Is that a problem?
What if the workshop days / times don't work for me?
Do you have any incentives if I refer a friend?
What if I don't identify as a mother but would still like to attend?
I love this workshop series! What else do you offer?
