Start feeling good enough
My name is Ali. I used to spend a lot of time fretting about whether I was doing things right as a mother, partner, colleague, daughter, and all the different roles I was trying to juggle. Sometimes I still do.
But now I have a much clearer sense of my identity as a whole person, not 'just a mum', honouring my needs and full range of emotions. These days, I show up for myself as well as caring for others. I don't wait until I'm broken to seek help. I mostly catch my reactions before they escalate. I know what it takes to stay grounded. I'm able to bring compassion towards the parts of myself that still trip me up at times.
And I'm here for everything you are trying to juggle too. I can help you trust your own instincts, rediscover who you are after having children, transition back into the workplace, and feel calm and confident about your parenting.
As both an experienced birthing teacher and qualified psychotherapist / somatic coach, I offer support across the whole pre and postnatal period.
I can help with most issues, including:
- anxiety about pregnancy and birth
- birth trauma
- postnatal depression and anxiety
- transition to motherhood (matrescence)
- stress and overwhelm as a mother / parent
- breaking cycles (family of origin)
- relationship difficulties
- emotional regulation
- managing the 'motherload'
- return to work
Whatever we work on together, my aim is to help you to reject the ‘perfect mother’ myth and begin to live in alignment with your true values and authentic identity.
Even if you feel you have lost your way since becoming a mother / parent, I can help you find a way back to what really matters.
Feel calm and relaxed in pregnancy. Build confidence and positivity about your birth. Active Hypnobirthing Courses and Workshops (in Taunton and online).
Individual support to enable you to make a lasting shift from feeling stressed and overwhelmed to feeling like you are doing a good enough job.
Being good enough...
There is part of me that feels that I am never quite good enough. I see it in my friends and almost all the women around me who have become mothers.
We doubt ourselves. We doubt even whether we have the right doubts: 'should I worry about this now?’
We Google our latest preoccupation at 3am in the morning to see if the internet has any answers.
We buy products or parenting books with 5* reviews. You know the ones that promise all the answers. How to get the baby to sleep, the toddler to stop having epic meltdowns, the school age child to be able to make friends.
The stages are different, but the feeling that you are completely incompetent is not.
We have days when we are in the flow with our little people and feel great. We have days when we are so out of synch with them, so wrong, so guilty, so tired, and so overwhelmed.
We wonder if we have failed them so badly we need to start all over again. We begin the next day with good intentions. We fail to meet the lofty expectations we have set ourselves. And repeat…
But something magical happens when a group of supportive women come together. Those expectations melt away under the balm of shared experience.
We do not
give birth the same way
parent the same way
feed our babies the same way
get them to sleep the same way
but we do all share many of the same concerns, and we passionately want to be the best mothers we can be.
My belief is that you are already a Good Enough Mama. When you work with me, I provide a non judgemental and supportive space for you to begin to trust in yourself.
I will start over with you on those days when you feel like you want another chance to get it right.
I will gently nudge you towards seeing that so much of what you already do is good enough.