Beyond the pile of laundry, never ending ‘to do’ list, meal prep, bottom wiping, pot washing and general chivvying up, much of the heavy lifting of motherhood is emotional.
And emotional labour is often more exhausting than all the physical tasks put together.
💪🏼 Being present for your child during a tantrum.
💪🏽 Creating enough space for them to safely express their full range of emotions.
💪🏾 Regulating yourself well enough to avoid being triggered.
💪🏿 Developing your own emotional literacy so you can better support your child.
Particularly when many of these beautiful gifts may not have been offered to YOU as a child.
All of this is exhausting.
In containing your child’s big emotions, you also need to find ways to be held...
🤱🏻 That holding can be grounding yourself in the present moment through what you can see, hear and touch.
🤱🏿 That holding can be offering yourself a soothing gesture (hand on heart, self hug, cradling your head).
🤱🏽 That holding can be calling a friend and sharing how your day went.
🤱🏻 That holding can be going to bed early.
🤱🏽 That holding can be seeing a therapist.
🤱🏿 That holding can be binge watching your favourite series without guilt.
🤱🏻 That holding can be in reminding yourself how far you’ve come.
🤱🏽 That holding can be in truly valuing your emotional labour…
…and acknowledging how important it is in shaping the next generation.
I offer 1:1 counselling and coaching to help you feel held and supported in the work you do as a mother.
You don't need more unsolicited advice. What you do need is a time and space to be heard with compassion, and tools to help you act from a place of calm and connection in your daily life.